What 10 things have you stopped doing in your life?

I stopped trying to forget my troubled childhood and instead used it as the basis for books.

I don't shower every day. I don't need to. I don't sweat much, never have. Two or three showers a week is enough for me.

I stopped buying super-cheap clothing that I didn't enjoy wearing. I deserve to feel fashionable.

What do people with very high IQs do all day?

I stopped struggling to put sheets on my bed in my tiny bedroom. A comforter on bottom, another on top, and I'm good.

I stopped trying to find common ground with Trump supporters. You can not rationalize with willful ignorance and those who have happily been brainwashed.

I stopped sorting laundry. It's idiotic. Fabrics are color -safe now. I wash everything in cold water and literally 2 tablespoons of detergent, the recommended amount. And yes, my laundry gets clean. If there is something extremely foul or that needs bleached, I do a separate hot-water load.

Has anyone ever participated in a gang bang and what was it like?

I stopped hiding my education. I have a lot of it. Because of how I was raised, I used to not be proud of it, worried I would appear elitist. Now? Fuck it. I worked my ass off for each degree, it took years, and I deserve to be proud of those accomplishments.

I stopped worrying about what people think of me. Nobody thinks they care about that, but many actually do. If people call me a crazy cat lady…and? What should I do, throw myself off a cliff in remorse?

I stopped trying to find reasons to forgive people who don't deserve forgiveness. It was liberating.

Can you write a letter to your first love without mentioning his/her name?

I stopped looking for my dream guy. It is highly doubtful he will show up. And that's okay. My life is great as is.

Edit/Postscript: I got a couple “mansplain alerts” helpfully explaining to me that I obviously stink, and that sheets must be changed every night. I don’t know how I managed before all these helpful tips! I teach in a middle school. Students this age have zero filters. If I stunk, I would hear about it immediately and loudly with no regards for my feelings. If my bedding was gross or stunk, I wouldn’t sleep on it. As I so often have to tell students, when I want your opinion, I’ll let you know.